TBN #26
In My Feelings 😃😕🫠
This time of the year life feels like a rollercoaster for educators like myself. The spring can be a fun and exhilarating time knowing that the school year is about to end or…
…you could be holding on for dear life anxiously awaiting for the school year to come to a close.
During peak season, your time is a precious and valuable asset so you need to manage requests to meet accordingly. Here’s an email response you can utilize inspired by Alex Hillman at Stacking the Bricks:
Thank you for reaching out! I keep my limited 1:1 time available for [insert project you are working or group you work with], so right now the best way for me to help will be to know the questions you have upfront. Feel free to send over 1-2 questions that are most important to you and I will try my best to respond as soon as I can.
You may also be managing various types of feelings about your work at this time. Many times we do not express how we actually feel and instead, we use pseudo-feelings which tend to evaluate or accuse others of a behavior. In times like these, we can use affective statements to express ourselves to our colleagues, friends, or partners. I know feelings can be hard to discuss because of how we are socialized but here are a couple of examples to get you started:
Instead of saying: I feel disrespected when you talk over me. You can say: I feel sad when you talk over me.
Instead of saying: That was great work! You can say: I feel happy when I see you working collaboratively as a team on this project.
Check out the Basics for this week for more info on feelings.
Now whoosah and let’s get into it…
WEEKLY UPDATE
CLIFF NOTES: IN CASE YOU MISSED IT…
Coachella’s impact on the Latine community
The world’s most populous country (hint: it’s not the U.S.)
Start of Ridvan (Baha’i) (April 21)
April is Earth Month, Arab-American Heritage Month, World Autism Awareness Month, National Child Abuse Prevention Month, and Celebrate Diversity Month
Ramadan (March 22-April 21)
BENTON’S BASICS: THE FEELING WHEEL
Long story short…
The Feeling Wheel was created by Gloria Willcox (1982) which indicates primary and secondary feelings. Many practitioners utilize The Feeling Wheel to help clients, students, participants, etc. identify the root or core feeling they are experiencing in any given moment. You can use this wheel from the Calm app the next time you are trying to communicate how you really feel.
STUDY HALL: TODAY’S BREADWINNERS
According to a new report by the Pew Research Center, wives are earning more but still doing most of the domestic work in the home. Even when earnings are similar, husbands spend more time on paid work and leisure, while wives devote more time to caregiving and housework.
HOMEWORK: PRAISE THIS
What I’m Watching 📺: I was looking for feel-good tv/film this past week and Praise This on Peacock accomplished the goal.
What I’m Listening To 🎧: Pay What You Owe where Yamiche Alcindor discusses slavery reparations in the United States.
What I’m Reading This Month 📚: Getting Along: How to Work with Anyone (Even Difficult People) by Amy Gallo
DANCE BREAK: WINTER THINGS
Since we are on the topic of feelings this week…
Listen to Drake’s "In My Feelings”
DOUBLE TAP: WHO I’M FOLLOWING
We’re Not Really Strangers is an account that captures all the feelings of the human experience with content that resonates across identities.
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